Unrequited

Most love stories are about people who fall in love with each other. But what about the rest of us? What about our stories, those of us who fall in love alone?

 We are the victims of the one-sided affair. We are the cursed  of the loved ones. We are the unloved ones, the walking wounded.

                        - Iris from Holiday 

So this kind of love is the most cruel , brutal and harming where one person keeps dying and the other one have no clue about it .The prayers to be loved by them all seems to be going in vain .This kind  is very delusional,you keep creating imaginary views in your mind but in reality you are a fool.

Loving someone from afar is the most foolish thing  a person can ever do.You wanted to be love but by whom , who doesn't know that you exist or if they know that  you exists , you might be a bizzare stranger or a creepy  person and soon .The unreciprocated love is a godly curse to humans which can convert them to mad person sometimes saint Meera too.

Days and days , seasons and seasons,years and years an unrequited remains struct in the positive imagination to get to a chance which is never there in reality but somewhere in the neural activity.How this kind of love is complicated? How there is a urge to be get loved by someone who ll never fall for you? You keep reminiscing the thought of get together somewhere in the parallel universe,where you ll control all the storylines , script and the content just to get love ,far from the reality where you are struggling ,not even getting attention from them for a mint too.

No doubt unrequited love is the most challenging , unacceptable and far from reality .The synthesis of mind in this totally responsible for the misery .

The misery of not being loved can be worse like death .The sadness , aloneness, desperations, urge to move on and then again falling for the same person feels like a curse ,curse which has no cure except the love of that person who ll not even look at you .

"The handicapped without the advantage of a great parking space! Yes, you are looking at one such individual. And I have willingly loved that man for over three miserable years! The absolute worst years of my life! The worst Christmas', the worst Birthday's, New Years Eve's brought in by tears and valium. These years that I have been in love have been the darkest days of my life. All because I've been cursed by being in love with a man who does not and will not love me back. Oh god, just the sight of him! Heart pounding! Throat thickening! Absolutely can't swallow! All the usual symptoms. I understand feeling as small and as insignificant as humanly possible. And how it can actually ache in places you didn't know you had inside you. And it doesn't matter how many new haircuts you get, or gyms you join, or how many glasses of chardonnay you drink with your girlfriends... you still go to bed every night going over every detail and wonder what you did wrong or how you could have misunderstood. And how in the hell for that brief moment you could think that you were that happy. And sometimes you can even convince yourself that he'll see the light and show up at your door. And after all that, however long all that may be, you'll go somewhere new. And you'll meet people who make you feel worthwhile again. And little pieces of your soul will finally come back. And all that fuzzy stuff, those years of your life that you wasted, that will eventually begin to fade."

                              -  Iris from the holiday 

Hollywood philosophy about unrequited love is so true.Everyone like Iris must have felt the urge to get loved but also the urge to move out from the cycle of jealousy , hate and unacceptance. God must have plans for unrequited lovers  or he just wants to punish them for their deeds in theirs previous life .

This punishment is worse than hanging and prolonged illness .Every minute the person crave for love , which he could get from anyone but god's has built his heart like the heart wants what it wants .

Iris fell in love , she tried to move on , she choose self respect and self love meanwhile she did everything but couldn't get but she wanted .It's like with every cursed person who is unreciprocated .The pain ,the sufferings and the suffocation ,the never ending cycle of loving and getting love from the other person .The stage of Iris of  being unrequited love is  a part of your life , where desperation ll makes you to do things , eventually improves you to get noticed  .They say that there are many advantages of the unrequited love over reciprocated love .I eventually want to get into it , Had such people ever been unrequited lover or there is such a conception about it

  

"It's not easy to be in love ... when you don't get love back in return."

                   -Ayan sanger from Ae dil e mushkil

            

                  

Several fictional characters are there which portrayed the misery of an unrequited,most of them moved on .Could it happens in reality? The answer is yes but after exploiting the emotional intelligence of the person making them vulnerable to certain emotional turbulence or with a aim not to fall in admiration again ,not from afar ,not like this .The never ending cycle untill it's too late .

Most of the people  I met have been unrequited lover , atleast for the records to tell their friends that I was rejected by  this or that and then chasing another one to satisfy ego or whatever you say ! 

Such a low value to be unrequited ,I would like to say hell no! They were not able to differentiate among love ,fallin in love , getting love , rejection , stationary and then moving on .yeah it is funny but cruel at the same time , why I am so mean and judgemental all the time .Hell ,who cares whatever to survive . Admiration is fragile these days but atleast people have option in everything whom to love or not ! unrequited love is so philosophical and i had never liked philosophy that much untill I found this topic so fabricated and toxic like cyanide.

One of such fictional character who was never able to moveon was Shruti from Barfi , the longing ,the pain  but the acceptance. still after the acceptance she suffered, remembering the love she didn't get .

"That was the love

I always yearned for.

Just like my grandparents.

True love.

To live together and die together...

in each other's arms.

So no ones left behind in tears.

They left...

together.

Leaving me all alone.

lt could have been me

instead of Jhilmil.

But it was Jhilmil who got Barfi.

Because she didn't

plan to fall in love.

She didn't think

about the consequences.

She didn't think

how life would turn out.

She just loved him unconditionally.

And it all turned out well

in the end." 

         -Shruti from Barfi